On Thursday night, Michael and I had a lovely dinner after the kids went to sleep and sat around talking about our backyard/garden and all the plans we have for it. We poured through our favorite books and drew up diagrams. We set our intentions high for the immediate days ahead of us and dreamed up some lofty ideas for other future plans…an outdoor kitchen, a shade-cloth covered back patio, new (or new to us) and more comfortable patio furniture. The list went on. Dreaming and planning is fun…executing, not always so much.
I had to work the following couple of days and it ate into our plans pretty hard, unfortunately. It’s all a juggling act…all of these things we want to accomplish for our family while trying to raise our family. The children aren’t old enough yet to really be helpful and some days we just find ourselves managing their play and trying to keep them “safely” occupied amidst the construction zone that our patio has turned into.
By the end of the weekend, we had hoped to have seeds in the ground and the fencing up. We got a few of the beds turned over and the soil amended, but that was it. Michael built another box and started the watering lines as well as posts for the fencing…which in itself is a lot of work, so that was a good accomplishment. As we look toward the weekends ahead and our work schedules between us, I can’t help but feel a bit discouraged. Sometimes even the simplest of things seems to take so long to achieve…like this blog post for example, which I started writing yesterday, but haven’t been able to sit at the computer for more than a few minutes at a time to finish it.
In the midst of all this frustration, it dawned on me that we as a family are changing and in a period of transition, much like our garden. Michael spent the past year working at home and we were able to accomplish a lot of things together on a daily basis…including taking care of the children. Now, with him working out of the house M-F and me working on some weekends, the energy and rhythm of our days has greatly shifted. We are learning how to adapt to this change, just as we had to learn how to handle the past year’s challenges as well. I know it takes time…it all takes time; raising kids or raising vegetables. One day at a time…that’s how I’m going to take it.
The garden will grow, as will our children, it just might not be at the pace we had desired…the garden can hurry up, but I wish the children would slow down!